Relationship & couples therapy

My focus is on strengthening secure connection through a holistic, embodied relational process. This blends attachment approaches (Emotionally Focused Therapy and Stan Tatkin’s work) and differentiation (the edge of self and other). Together we’ll look at your relational patterns underfoot that cause disconnection. We’ll explore new patterns to shift towards the connection you want. I am sex and kink positive with specialized experience working with queer folk and open relationships.

  • Focusing on secure connection.

  • Conflict doesn’t need to feel terrible. Though it might not be easy, it can be productive. Conflict creates growth and brings people together.

  • Balancing differentiation, togetherness, autonomy and mutuality defined by what works for each of you.

  • Interpersonal skills: speaking from the heart or empathizing through difficulty.

  • Inclusive of exploring power/privilege, dynamics and expectations that diminish your relationships and sense of aliveness. Let’s create what you want.

  • I specialize and love supporting queer couples, open relationships.

  • trauma informed

I can help with…

  • conflict & repair

  • trust & security

  • staleness & re-sparking

  • queer couples

  • codependency

  • sexual topics

  • open relationships

  • infidelity and betrayal

  • conscious uncoupling

  • other close relationships: friends, family, queer platonic

Approaches

attachment-based

Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT)

PACT

Institute for Relational Intimacy

sex positive

kink allied

Recommended books

Monsters in Love ~ Resmaa Menakem

Wired for Love ~ Stan Tatkin

Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence ~ Esther Perel

Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy ~ Jessica Fern

Come as You are ~ Emily Nagoski

The Birth of Pleasure ~ Carol Gilligan