Relationship & couples therapy

My focus is on strengthening secure connection through a holistic, embodied relational process. This blends attachment approaches (Emotionally Focused Therapy and Stan Tatkin’s work) and differentiation (the edge of self and other). Together we’ll look at the relational patterns underfoot that cause disconnection. We’ll explore new patterns to shift towards the connection you want. I am sex and kink positive with specialized experience working with queer folk and open relationships.

  • Support for a secure & zesty connection.

  • Conflict doesn’t need to feel terrible. Though it might not be easy, it can be productive. Conflict creates growth and brings people together.

  • Balance togetherness and autonomy, mutuality defined by what works for each of you.

  • Interpersonal skills: speaking from the heart and empathizing through difficulty.

  • Inclusive of exploring power/privilege: unspoken asymmetries and expectations that diminish your relationships and sense of aliveness. Let’s create what you want.

  • I specialize in supporting queer couples, sexual challenges and open relationships.

  • trauma informed

I can help with…

  • conflict & repair

  • trust & security

  • staleness & re-sparking

  • queer couples

  • codependency

  • sex, eroticism, pleasure

  • open relationships and other non-traditional forms

  • infidelity and betrayal

  • conscious uncoupling

  • other close relationships: friends, family, queer platonic

Approaches

attachment-based

Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT)

Family Systems

Sex Therapy

Institute for Relational Intimacy

kink allied

vanilla allied

Monsters in Love~ Resmaa Menakem

Wired for Love ~ Stan Tatkin

Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence ~ Esther Perel

Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy ~ Jessica Fern

Come as You are ~ Emily Nagoski

The Birth of Pleasure ~ Carol Gilligan

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